To stay abroad with a host family is a very rewarding experience because you truly immerse yourself in a different culture, learn the language in a natural environment and make potentially long-lasting relationships.
Host families are carefully chosen and prepared to receive a foreign guest but taking into account cultural differences, personalities’ traits and habits are important features to establish a clear communication channel and, avoid misunderstandings.
The members of the host family share their space and time with you, so be kind and willingly to develop a positive relationship. The family also expects to learn something about your culture so be ready to show videos, pictures and brochures about your country. One way to show you care is to give them a gift on arrival.
During the first days it’s important to discuss what the family expects from you as families can be very different. Alcohol and tobacco are important issues as people who are not smokers don’t like others to smoke in their houses. Respect their rules and whenever you’re in doubt, ask. Questions are always welcome.
Discuss when to use the bathroom to shower, how and when to do the washing and other personal cores.
Maybe at home you don’t make your bed and scatter your dirty clothes on the carpet. As a guest, you should keep your place clean and tidy. Changing your sheets regularly, vacuuming and putting your dirty clothes in a hamper should be enough.
Middle class families don’t have servants, so members of the family do all the cores. Offer to do the dishes, set the table, take the dog for a walk or babysit. On some occasions you can get supper ready for the family.
Don’t use things that are in the house without asking. Talk about using the family phone and internet and how you’ll pay them for that.
Be punctual for meals and other scheduled activities because Anglo-Saxons are very time conscious. If you’ll be late please phone.
Be always kind and friendly and don’t get offended. Remember people’s behavior can be different from what you expect.
If you feel something does not work, talk to your host family. If you can’t find a solution, talk to a counselor at school.
If you bear in mind these tips while you stay with your host family you’ll certainly enjoy your stay and building a close friendship.